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SOUL MATES

SOUL MATES

The soul has a strong desire and need for intimacy, and it loves vernacular life—that particular place, family, friends, neighborhood that are part of our daily life. That is why we look at ways of being in any kind of relationship soulfully: bonds that we feel with certain people.

A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected by divine grace. There is nothing more precious in life than our soul mate. Actually, this form of intimacy is not limited to one person or one form.

We are not talking about the interpersonal mechanics that comes to the foreground. Some nonchalantly say that we are simply programmed to act the way we do – almost like a machine. Not so! Today’s communication is technically sophisticated and speedy, but not necessarily more soulful.

We are dealing with questions like, “what is this thing when we fall madly in love?”, or “Why is this deep love never seemed to be satisfied?”, or “What is it that the soul wants upon separation?”

Some of us are frustrated and ask, “What is this continued failure to find love?” There are troubling aspects: doubts, distancing, desire for separation and freedom and endings. We suffer symptoms of loss of soul. The reason why we have so much trouble with relationships today may be our neglect of the study of the soul.

SOUL MATES

The soul loves attachments of all kinds – to places, ideas, times, sounds and music even in the ordinary details of everyday life. There are two pulls on our life: one upward toward success, progress, and intellectual clarity and another downward into individual, quiet life.

We have strong desires to have a family, live with another person, or join a community and yet after this has been satisfied, we are still drawn in exactly the opposite direction – our intimacy and our solitude. We must learn to honor both togetherness and individuality at the same time, even though we may sometimes feel a tug to one side only.

There are really two goals: one, to come to know yourself and two, to get to know the deep and subtle richness of the soul of the other. The final objective is to be both intimately connected with one another and at the same time, preserve one’s integrity and individuality.

This can be accomplished by giving the other sufficient emotional space in which to live and express one; then to risk revealing your own soul, complete with all its own absurdities. There are deep roots that may never have been revealed because of a lack o communication. The solution is not knowledge but love and a feeling that “you are accepted” by the other

We look at ourselves and we don’t like what we see. We try to change but the old imperfections remain steadfast. The basis of all relationships starts with the recognition that you have to be a friend to yourself – intimacy with oneself. The answer has everything to do with developing a good, intimate relationship to our own soul and the soul of others.

SOUL MATES

THE SOUL OF THE FAMILY

People living in the modern life often complain about a loss of traditional values and about feeling aimless, rootless and adrift. The culture of the family is a resource into which a person may dip throughout one’s life for direction, meaning and style.

One task is to forgive our parents for being imperfect. Life is much richer if we could let go of the excuse of parental failure and to establish a satisfying relationship with them. We benefit from the richness of a family and in particular of family stories, which identify who we are. The family may be one of the most powerful creative forces in our lives.

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THE SOUL OF MARRIAGE

There is intermingling of souls that culminate in marriage – a demanding form of relationship. Marriage is a mystery, a sacrament and a sacred symbolic act. The interior of marriage is magical: it is fulfilling union that supplies a profound need for meaning, fulfillment and relatedness: a good home, fine children, happy days.

The real goal of marriage is not to create this material, human world, but rather to evoke a spirit of love that is not of this world. Yet, there can be a painful stirring of the souls.

Some marriages are characterized by different motives:

  • Some ask for distance, others for closeness
  • Some for children, some for the life of a couple
  • Some want it to be brief, some lifelong
  • Some want frequent change, some want to get into a mold and stay there
  • Some prefer sentimentality, others like pragmatism

Some couples find conversation difficult. One party once to hear certain things from the other, but will not listen. One party wants to hear certain confessions or admissions, but not confess one’s own state of being.

Some marriages are living hells and many are full of difficulties. So what happens when one or both of the partners think that the magic has gone out of the marriage? Could it be that the couples only have a mechanical and structural image of marriage? Scientific analysis always comes up short in their portrayal of marriage and its problems.

SOUL MATES

MARRIAGE AND THE SACRED

This leads us to the workings of the heart – a mystery that can’t be easily explained in a religious sense which shows traces of the finger of God at work. These emotions and passions can only be appreciated with the tools of religion. The soul has an important spiritual dimension, which is far deeper or higher level than personalities and lives.

The couple can lay the foundation for genuine spirituality as an ingredient in their lives. They can reach down into their soul and establish a kind of intimacy that is more profound than mere analysis. The partners must use means like prayer that match the soul’s sacred dimension. Then spirituality in the form of grace pours into their lives that make marriage both magical and miraculous.

Relationship with the divine satisfies the soul in ways that no substitute can touch: the Divine is the only satisfying lover, the only true soul mate. Knowing that our relationships have a divine strain allows us not to be distracted by imperfections of our partners or family. We don’t demand that the relationships play it out according to our own expectations.

 A VOCATION

Two people are called together to fulfill a mission that God has given them. Marriage is a spiritual reality. That is to say, a man and a woman come together for life, not just because they experience deep love for each other, but because they believe that God loves each of them with an infinite love and has called them to each other to be living witnesses of that love. 

The love you give and receive is a reality that will lead you closer and closer to God as well as those whom God has given you to love.

Our humanity comes to its fullest bloom in giving. We become beautiful people when we give whatever we can give: a smile, a handshake, a kiss, an embrace, a word of love, a present, a part of our life…all of our life.                                                                        HENRI NOUWEN

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JESUS WISHES TO SPEAK TO YOU.

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Marriage Instituted by God

“I love you.

Marriage was instituted by God the Father at the creation of man and woman. At the beginning God made the first man and the first woman and marriage was instituted when the Father said, ‘Increase and multiply and fill the earth.’

He continued, ‘A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. What God has joined together let no man separate.’

I elevated marriage between a Christian man and a Christian woman to a sacrament. A sacrament is a sign instituted by Me to give grace and to lead to holiness.

It is the couple who has received the sacrament of marriage who are fitting parents for children, for children should be born of that stable union. Children deserve to have both a father and a mother.

Children born out of wedlock are cheated by illegitimate parents. Children have the right to a stable home and loving parents. I blessed and I will continue to bless such marriages.

Let not same-sex unions be compared to marriage and rob this vital institution of its value and richness.

Let no one try to change what the Father has established. You, My friend, uphold the sanctity of marriage between one man and one woman.

Know that I am closely linked to all Christian marriages. I love you.”

 The above messages came to Father Melvin Doucette:

Fr. Melvin Doucette was ordained to the priesthood on and joined the Missionaries of Africa for 29 years in Africa. In contemplative prayer every morning, Fr. Doucette receives by interior locution “messages from heaven” to share with the public.

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IT’S IN THE BOOK…

LOVE IN MARRIAGE

  • You will have the free gift of complete forgiveness for all your sins extending into forever                                                    (Romans 6:23)
  • You will have all your real needs provided while on earth.                                                                                                                          (Philippians 4:19)
  • You will receive all the grace you need at all times so that you will abound in every good work God has for you.                                                                                                                                              (2 Corinthians 9:8)
  • God will complete the good work He began in you.                                                                                                                                             (Philippians 1:6)
  • That means someday soon you will see Jesus, be with Him              (2 Corinthians 5:8), and be like Him.                                      (1 John 3:2)
  • In that day you will know for the first time full, unpolluted joy                                                                                                                           (Psalm 16:11)
  • You will be completely free from all corruption       (Romans 8:21)
  • You will have God forever (1 Peter 3:18) as your exceeding joy.                                                                                                                          (Psalm 43:4)
  • You will be raised from the dead and never, ever die again.                                                                                                        (1 Corinthians 15:52–53)

 

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ASTONISHING PREDICTIONS

God divinely inspired the BIBLE . How do we know? Each of eight accurate predictions  show a high probability mathematically. The probability of one individual fulfilling eight prophecies have odds of 1 in 10 17  (1 in 100,000,000,000,000,000). Jesus Christ fulfilled all prophecies, therefore the Bible MUST BE TRUE. 

DIVINE OR HUMAN CALIPHS

The Old Testament indicates another 40 astonishing predictions.

CHINA DECEASED RELATIVES

Christianity experiences stunning growth—from approximately 3.8 million adherents in China in 1956 to an estimated 87 to 100 million Christians today.

CHINA AND THE HOLY SPIRIT

In the end, one Christian conversion will benefit the whole family.  The gifts of the Holy Spirit of healing and deliverance will help the whole family. A prayer of deliverance of evil spirits will leave any member of the family with a complete sense of peace immediately. A prayer of healing from a Christian disciple produces 80% healing. The remaining healing comes from continued prayer of praise and thanksgiving until all the healing is complete. This healing comes from the Holy Spirit through the power in the Name of Jesus Christ.  No other god or deity or doctor uses this power. This proves the TRUTH OF CHRISTIANITY. 

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BILLIONS OF CHRISTIANS CAN’ T ALL BE WRONG!

Christianity is not a philosophy, but it is  a relationship with God, your Creator,  in Christ TODAY. It is not knowledge of abstract principles.  How do we know this? Healing takes place TODAY in the Name of Jesus Christ. 

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 HEALING?

 Many Christian disciples use the gift of healing.  They also use deliverance to deliver away evil spirits influencing people. These evil spirits cause depression, addictions and illness through all forms of stress.  Only the Name of Jesus Christ makes healing and deliverance possible.Chinese Religion God

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HOW IS JESUS STILL ALIVE TODAY?

Jesus is alive today! He heals today (through His followers) and in many cases it is realized immediately. How else can you explain the explosion of Christianity, the world’s largest religion, on earth: 2.2 billion adherents, nearly a third (31 percent) of all 6.9 billion people on Earth. 

Christians know and feel His Presence; they communicate with Him personally; Christian prayers are always answered.

This author has been given the Gift of Healing only because he is a Christian Lay Missionary, who travels  two to three places every year. On his last trip to Columbia he successfully transferred his Gift to his Spanish translators, who were able to heal as he did. He has healed Muslims to their great surprise.

He also delivers away evil spirits along with their healing. All those who are delivered from evil spirits feel a complete physical  sense of peace.

DREAMS AND VISIONS

God can give a message to those non-Christians to change their heart.  God knows faith will be developed eventually. God will come to you in the form of dreams or visions. So be sensitive to any dreams or visions, when you ask God for it earnestly.

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HEALING OF RELATIONSHIPS 2

DEMONIC INFLUENCES

Many of us have demonic influences within us, but we also have the dashing prince. Before the Prince can save the damsel in distress, he has to slay the dragons that surround the castle. These demons are our wounds, our fears from our egos. A good example is women who always seem to meet emotionally abusive men. The problem is that these women have always known that pain. They almost feel comfortable with that pain. Their demons must be bound and delivered away: the spirits of poor unforgiveness, self-esteem, trauma and fear.

Sometimes the moment the pain is greatest is a wonderful opportunity: we might actually make a slip and ask Heaven for help. You decide that you need to be healed. A process of miraculous change takes place which is twofold:

  1. I see my error or dysfunctional pattern
  2. I ask God to take it from me: “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.”                                                                                                 1 John 5:14

The healing must happen. They then learn to pray for each other and for the healing of relationships: to reignite one’s love. What is required is deliverance.

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?                                                  James 4:1

As victims of a sin-nature, we tend to be blind to our own sins and at the same time we are driven to blame our spouse or anyone else for own bad behavior.  As Christians, we are called to examine our own personal flaws and to respond to our spouse with understanding and compassion.

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Unfortunately, many justify their action by telling ourselves, “I can’t help it!”, which is a myth or a lie.  Another reason for arguments is that we too easily give in to our own negative feelings.  Jesus called us to rise above our feelings, not to allow them to dominate our will and to continue loving no matter what.

Another flaw in our thinking is something called, “weather proofing” our relationship, which is an arrogant attempt to change one’s spouse into a perfect fantasy in one’s mind of what a spouse should be.  What a dangerous illusion!  One partner may foster conflict by thinking the other has an evil intent, which is usually not true. When one judges in this way, one is putting on a superiority: he or she is not good enough for me.  Remember only God has the right to judge.

This feeling that the spouse is deliberately out to wound the other, leads to insecurity, which in turn leads to low moods; these low moods cause the spouse to lose one’s warm feelings, which in itself is destructive. It is really a cry for help.

If one spouse is in a low mood, it is very difficult to use reason.  That spouse has lost touch with logic and has lost sight of reality. Conversely, as one’s spouse begins to feel more secure, one’s mood begins to rise and one will once more break out into the sunlight. Hope is the usual medicine.

When both are in a high mood again, and can think clearly, both should discuss what happened and try to practice a new strategy.  To avoid this pitfall, both must agree to inform the other when one is in a low mood before it explodes.  It must be agreed on how each should react to respond to a partner’s  low mood. 

We know that men and women think and act differently. We also know that two partners may come from totally different family backgrounds and experiences.  Despite these differences, it would be ideal if both partners begin to change. Even if only one makes the effort, there is usually a wonderful response by the other.

If one’s attitude is excitement at the spouse’s way of seeing the world, one will continue to be in a high mood, constantly stimulated by the partner’s ideas and never feeling threatened by them.

INCOMPATIBILITY

We should discard all false notions of “incompatibility”, which is a myth and an feeble excuse to avoid real commitment.  Christians can love one another whether they are compatible or not in the eyes of the world.

A perceived problem is in fact a state of mind, which can manufacture a problem out of anything or even out of nothing.  A change of heart  is necessary.  We have available to us even a higher spiritual change of heart, which prompts us to “lay down my life” for the other. John 10:15 This can only occur with the help of the Holy Spirit. It means that daily we submit ourselves to the will of God — accepting Jesus Christ as one’s personal Lord and Saviour and following in His footsteps and if necessary carrying  His cross.

This leads to true conversion: the husband begins to live for his wife instead of for himself, while his wife begins to live for him, rather than for herself.  If I “lay down my life” for my wife and live for her happiness, I need never worry, since it is very likely that she will do the same thing in turn for me.  The result is that my wife’s needs will be met and my needs will also be met. Instead of living a self-centred life, I live an other-centred life, and I am empowered to do this because I live for God first.

“Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”                                                                                   Philippians 2:1-4

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.’ Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky.”                                                              Philippians 2:14-15 

  • The first step usually begins with an ordinary counseling session to find out how the partners feel about themselves and their relationship.

Much of what holds people back in life is their unresolved feelings and judgments regarding their relationships, even relationships in the distant past. These feelings and judgments act as a kind of dam, holding people’s feelings back, arresting them in place, influencing their perception of other people and disabling them from being able to be emotionally open. Continue reading HEALING OF RELATIONSHIPS 2

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