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‘CHEAP SEX’ IS DESTROYING MARRIAGE

A NEW MORALITY OF SEX?

The words of the pope and the Vatican commissions fall for the most part on deaf ears, as is obvious from polls and other indications that even faithful Catholics no longer conform to Church teachings on sex. Vatican efforts against “artificial” methods of birth control have been in vain, and the Church has suffered such a general loss of credibility that its preachments on sex are ignored if not scorned by the overwhelming majority of Catholics.

Christian fundamentalists see it, of course, as a clear indication of the devil’s power over fallen humanity. But their hellfire-and-brimstone warnings reach only a tiny portion.

The enormous increase in the material standard of living, allows people more freedom to experiment.

There is an increasing corruption of morals and unbridled exaltation of sex. In addition, Christians are confused because of the diversity of opinions contrary to the teaching of the Church.

The Church’s position is enunciated in the basic principle, drawn from natural law, that the sexual function has its true meaning and moral goodness only in marriage, so the document of the Church goes on to rule out premarital sex, homosexual acts and masturbation .

Premarital sex is ruled out by the Church even when the partners are deeply committed to each other and are impeded from marrying only by adverse circumstances.

On the other hand, sex has the potential to bring people to the deepest level of intimacy.

CHEAP SEXCHEAP SEX

In his recently released book “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage and Monogamy,” Regnerus examines the dramatic changes in American sexual beliefs that have led to an inability among increasing numbers of young men and women to marry, have children and be faithful to one another.

Three technological developments — highly effective contraceptives, high-quality Internet pornography and on-line dating/meeting services — have made sex (or sexual release) as easy to get in the U.S. as  water from a tap. Together, they drive down the cost of real sex, and in turn slow the development of love, make fidelity more challenging and have even taken a toll on men’s marriage ability. No longer playing a supporting role in relationships, sex has emerged as a central priority in relationships.

Everything in this new world is instantaneous……..everything is available and at their finger tips! Cheap sex has become like eating fast food. it is a NOW generation. They younger generation has a hard time looking down the road –planning for the future.

There is an emergence of something called Confluent Love”, which is “not forever” love, but love that asks whether this relationship is satisfying for both parties. When one party answers “no,” the relationship does not continue. Confluent love is the new norm that is shaping our dating and marriage relationships. For good or ill, neither partner will be happy with the final result.

In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex. To get a wife (and, therefore, sex), men had to be clean and presentable and have a good job. This, Regnerus reasons, gave men all the motivation they needed to become respectable members of society. Nowadays young men can skip the detour of getting education and career prospects to qualify for sex. Now with porn on demand and greater reproductive freedom, sex is a commodity available at any time.

MEN AND WOMEN DIFFERENCES

Men and women are not the same with regard to sex. In general, men have more desire for sex than women. Women desire sex too, but they also want it with love, attention, care and, if they are smart, permanence. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and even if they don’t want to give it away cheaply, men now expect it and can go elsewhere if a woman does not put out. In other words, if women want male attention, they have to give sex away cheaply because other women do and men won’t hang around if they don’t. It’s a vicious circle which leads to untold numbers of young people who have failed relationship after failed relationship.

WOMEN DIFFICULTIES

Many women tend to be so hungry for love and touch that a little sex may give it to them, and so they may keep men on a chain. As compared to the past, many women today expect little in return for sex, in terms of time, attention, commitment or fidelity. Men, in turn, do not feel compelled to supply these goods as they once did.

Heterosexual women will have increasing difficulties finding a partner worth committing to. This leads women to settle, entering into doomed or otherwise unsatisfying marriages.

Women are getting married less because they are getting higher paying and higher educational jobs. But because women want to marry up, they only want to date the top 20% of men this presents a unique problem when all of the female population wants the same top 20% of men 

TRUE LOVECHEAP SEX TRUE LOVE

There are those who still believe in the sanctity of marriage or a solid committed relationship with one partner. They believe in romantic LOVE that is for the long haul. They are usually loyal to whoever they fall in LOVE with. They believe in the old school ways of thinking where people stayed in marriages for better or worst. Whoever they fall in LOVE with will always come home to them.

There are many people who are very much in LOVE and who prefer to be together without the signed contract of marriage. Others prefer the one on one kind of committed LOVE celebrated at the altar with God as the third important Partner. These are healthy relationships, where both people should have their own personal space to shine in their own beautiful light. It’s that kind of LOVE that you can see yourself having a life with, creating a family, growing old with and seeing your children become adults and being grandparents together. This is the kind of love that men are losing by not marrying. Whoever you fall in LOVE with will always come home to you.

SOCIAL CHANGECHEAP SEX

Marriage has become less of a priority for both genders simply because it is no longer made out to be the sole purpose of growing up in life… Education, travel, independence have all become valid and attainable choices for many. Both men and women no longer feel pressured to marry young.

These developments steer people away from thinking of sex as having anything to do with love, monogamy, or child-bearing — all traits that most Americans have long equated with marriage. Because sex is so readily available, people have lost the script that led them to marriage, family and permanence.

As women start to become more demanding of men, men turn away from women in pursuit of pleasure that costs little to nothing. We have failing rates of marriage and even greater rates of divorce.

As a consequence, men lose 50% of their property (real estate, cash, investments, etc) after divorce, plus add to this amount up to 18 years child support, including spousal support. So the costs can be staggering.

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THE BIBLE & SCIENCE ALIGN

THE SEARCH FOR NOAH’S FLOOD

There is overwhelming geological evidence that a global flood, as depicted in the story of Noah in the biblical book of Genesis, could have happened. 

The story of Noah’s Ark and the Great Flood is one of the most famous from the Bible, and underwater archaeologists think they have found proof that the biblical flood was actually based on real events.

The first book of the Bible, the book of Genesis, chapters 6 to 8, tells about a great world-wide flood. Such a major universal flood would surely leave much evidence.

  1. V-shaped valleys and river deltas suggest a recent (ca. 3000 BC) flood.
  2. All written history begins ca. 3000 BC.
  3. Foundations of cities began then, families of mankind began then and genealogies date back then.
  4. A rock is dated solely by its fossils, not by rough estimates of millions of years.
  5. Carbon dating, with C14, is not useful in dating before 5000 BC according to the discoverer of the method.

It is clear from the biblical account that there was a universal flood about 3000 BC. The biblical account did not derive from other literature. It is eyewitness testimony.

WHY GOD SENT THE FLOOD

The Lord said, “I will blot out man whom I have created from the face of the land, from man to animals to creeping things and to birds of the sky; for I am sorry that I have made them.” . . . God looked on the earth, and, behold, it was corrupt; for all flesh had corrupted their way upon the earth. Then God said to Noah, “The end of all flesh has come before Me; for the earth is filled with violence because of them; and, behold, I am about to destroy them with the earth” Genesis 6:7–13 

WAS THE FLOOD OF NOAH GLOBAL OR LOCAL IN EXTENT?

 “The waters prevailed, and greatly increased on the earth. . . . And the waters prevailed exceedingly on the earth, and all the high hills under the whole heaven were covered. . . . and the mountains were covered.”  Genesis 7:18,19 Continue reading THE BIBLE & SCIENCE ALIGN

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PRAYERS ANSWERED

PRAYER SURVEY

Newsweek’s own nationwide survey discovered:

  1. A stunning 87% of all Americans believe that prayer is answered by God.
  2. 82% asked for heath or success for a child or other family member when praying.
  3. 75% asked for strength to overcome personal weakness
  4. 85% don’t turn away from prayer even after prayers are not answered.

It has also been reported that all but a few medical doctors believe in God and 69% of doctors pray from time to time.

The real message is that prayer is truly of preeminent importance today.

WHY PRAY?

Why would God, who knows everything, ask us to pray when He already knows our needs before we ask?

Actually, prayer comes very naturally to us. There is even a yearning in our most innermost being that leads us to prayer. Where does this deep compulsion originate?

God designed us so that we might wish to know and be more like Him. We are “wired for God”. St. Augustine said,”You have made us for Yourself; and our hearts are restless until they find their rest in you.” We have been created for a purpose: to know, love and serve our God. So God wills us to develop an intimate fellowship with Him.

So we need to spend time together in silence and in the most intimate kind of discourse. Our prayer should be a deep soul conversation with our Creator, which was designed from the beginning.

Prayer in a community is also part of God’s plan, “where two or three are gathered in My name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:20 In fact, there is more power in this form of prayer.

PRAYERS ANSWERED

PRAYERS ANSWERED
PRAYERS ANSWERED

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COMMON TO ALL RELIGIONS

COMMON TO ALL FAITHS
COMMON TO ALL FAITHS

MOST OF THE MAJOR FAITHS HAVE SOMETHING IN COMMON.

Most of the major faiths include the idea of a higher level of consciousness, which is called a union with God; this is the ultimate goal of most spiritual practices. All major religions with the exception of the strictest form of Buddhism (Theravada Buddhism) teach:

  1. That there is a God who is not a person, but who created the cosmos and who is definitely personal.
  2. That it is possible to know and to experience union with this personal God.
  3. That the entire purpose of life is to seek to do so in order to experience God
COMMON TO ALL FAITHS

CHRISTIANITY IS DIFFERENT.

Christianity is different from other kinds of God-mysticism. We become fellow-heirs” with Christ and “fellow workers” with God until one day we will see God face to face.

  • Not many religions offer a Leader who chose to live with us and show us how to attain the reward of everlasting life.
  • Not many religions offer a God in the form of the Holy Spirit who fills our lives with divine grace in extraordinary ways: what some would think only as coincidence or good fortune.
  • Not many religions offer happiness, forever, as a prize for following a few laws
  • Not many religions throw life jackets to those floundering in a sea of frustration, sin, contradiction and evil.
  • Not many religions offer light in the darkness and a trail out of the wilderness.
  • Not many religions offer peace.

Cardinal Newman’s motto found on his gravestone, “ex umbris et imaginibus in veritatem” — here below we dwell amid only the shadows and images of eternal truth. Continue reading COMMON TO ALL RELIGIONS

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MIRACLE HOUR

THE MIRACLE HOUR
THE MIRACLE HOUR

…Could you not keep watch for one hour?”  Mark 14:37

Do you have problems with commitment to prayer? How about short five minutes segments in an hour? You can also just pray at a few spokes of the wheel.

It’s wonderful to start the day with the Lord, praying in the early hours before work begins. Having a set time and place for prayer has positive benefits, whether it is morning, noon or night.

Consider the “Miracle Hour” as an intensely loving “power encounter” with your heavenly Father. The more you can personalize them, and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you spontaneously in your own words, the more meaningful it will be. 

As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for You, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God? Psalm 42:1-2

Let us pray!

THE MIRACLE HOUR
THE MIRACLE HOUR
  1. PRAISE

People of praise are people of faith. Praise draws us into the abundant life in which God created us to live. When we praise God we acknowledge His supremacy in our lives. Praise draws us into His presence even when we don’t feel like it.

Let us praise God in all things. For the next five minutes just forget about yourself and concentrate on God. Between each segment you may wish to say the Our Father prayer or pray in the charismatic gift of tongues.

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AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES

AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES

AGNOSTIC: a person who believes that nothing is known or can be known of the existence or nature of God or of anything beyond material phenomena; a person who claims neither faith nor disbelief in God.

AS TO THE GODS, I HAVE NO MEANS OF KNOWING EITHER THAT THEY EXIST OR DO NOT EXIST.• PROTAGORAS  410BC 

Are there NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCE in which an agnostic encountered God? 

Dr. Atwater is an international authority on near- death states as well as a person who experienced near death. She is one of the original researchers in the field of near-death studies, having begun her work in 1978. More than 3,000 people are registered at her discussion form site, and we understand that they have one of the largest databases on near death experiences in the world.

AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES
AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES
AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES
AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES
AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES
AGNOSTIC NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES

Where arguments arise amongst various people and groups is over the interpretation of that light and any form it make take, and how to regard it.

Scientists say it is endorphins; Muslims say it is fantasy; religious fundamentalists of any “stripe” say it is Satan (Lucifer). People of faith say it is either of God or of emissaries from God.

WHAT IS CLINICAL DEAD?

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HIDDEN UNFORGIVENESS

UNFORGIVENESS
UNFORGIVENESS

Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind anyone whom you need to forgive. Respond to His prompting and specifically name each person. Remember, the ones that you find hardest to forgive are the ones you most need to forgive. You can use these words:

I forgive all who have harmed me or wronged me in the past. In particular, I forgive (name those who you need to forgive). It is done in heaven.

Forgiveness is a decision. It is not an emotion. Yet, psychologically, you may still find it difficult to forgive someone who really harmed you. This is when you take it upon yourself to pray a short prayer for that person including the above prayer every day for ten days. It will also be done in your mind.

Why is the important? God offers to forgive your ten million dollar debt to Him if you forgive a ten thousand dollar debt for someone is owed you. If you persist in holding on to this debt, God will hold onto yours. It becomes merely enlightened self-interest.

 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”                                                                                                                                                  Mark 11:25

BLESSING AND CURSES Derek Prince

The root cause of unforgiveness is bitterness and hatred towards the person who has offended us.

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STEALING FROM GOD

GOD WILL BLESS YOU!

“Should people cheat God? Yet you have cheated Me!

 “You have cheated Me of the tithes and offerings due to Me. Bring all the tithes (and) “I will open the windows of heaven for you. I will pour out a blessing so great you won’t have enough room to take it in!” Try it! Put Me to the test! Malachi 3:8, 10

This refers to living consistently in the blessing of God, not just a one shot healing.

Healing is a free gift, but we must fulfill the conditions that God sets out including releasing your finances to Him. You have to give to God what is rightly His. You cannot rob from God and expect Him to consistently heal you.

So you say that this biblical reference comes only from the Old Testament. Yet, the New Testament goes even further in the Acts of the Apostle, where Jesus asks a young man to sell everything he had and follow Him.

STEALING FROM GOD
STEALING FROM GOD

VALUE OF A BLESSING

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ESCAPING YOUR PERSONAL HELL

EXISTENTIAL EMPTINESS

ESCAPING YOUR PERSONAL HELL
ESCAPING YOUR PERSONAL HELL

We still feel our desire to make a positive difference to others (because of our capacity for empathy and conscience) even if we don’t acknowledge or act on it. Similarly, we still feel a desire for the transcendent and spiritual (because of the five transcendental desires and our awareness of the spiritual) even if we refuse to believe in the transcendent.

These unfulfilled desires have a curious consequence—they make us feel empty.

We not only miss the satisfactions of contribution, love, transcendence, and spiritual life, but our self-consciousness comprehends that we are only fulfilling part of ourselves. “Existential emptiness” refers to this complex of self-alienation and self-negation.

Thus, if we are to overcome dominant Level One and Level Two identity, we will have to replace it with dominant Level Three and Level Four identity.

 Many of us will try to block it out by increasing our pursuit of Level One and Level Two desires. “If two scotches won’t make me feel better, perhaps five will.” “I feel a sudden need to have another twenty pairs of shoes and three Armani purses.” I am going to take a big risk and leave the town in which my family is most comfortable, to take an even more prestigious job.”

They truly manifest Augustine’s recognition of his own journey to God—“Our hearts are restless until they rest in Thee.”

The need to cover over our sense of emptiness, guilt, and tragedy becomes more and more acute, and we take greater risks—more alcohol, more drugs, more base pursuits on the Internet, more ego highs, more accumulation of possessions, more exaggerated claims about accomplishments, and even ethically questionable behaviors to keep the upward momentum going.

This leads to either the positive one (to move toward dominant Levels Three and Four) or the truly negative one (sinking into a sea of emptiness, depression, and despair).

What happens if we take the “low road”? It manifests itself somewhat gradually. We find ourselves wanting to sleep more, watch more television, play more games on the Internet, spend more time at the club, and so forth. We always have a justification for this: “Sleep is restorative.” “That movie is a real classic, and by watching it for the fifth time it will really give me a new perspective on life.” “The Internet games are helping my mental agility.”

 The depression is turning into despair, and if it is not treated, it could become tragic.

ESCAPING YOUR PERSONAL HELL

ESCAPING YOUR PERSONAL HELL
ESCAPING YOUR PERSONAL HELL

We will look at “Level Three replacement therapy”

Some people will feel more naturally inclined to pursue Level Three methods first, and then Level Four, while others (like myself) are more naturally inclined to pursue Level Four methods first, and then back into Level Three methods. I would submit that both Level Three and Level Four are essential for moving out of a dominant Level One-Two identity.

Alternatively, if Level Four is unaccompanied by Level Three, then it can lead to a superficial faith that does not seek to make a contribution to people, the common good, and the culture—it is a faith without charitable love (agapē). Moreover, Level Three contribution and love reinforces Level Four faith, while the grace of Level Four faith reinforces Level Three contribution and love.

Our dominant view of happiness determines what we are looking for, and this in turn determines what we are living for (our life’s purpose), and when we live for a particular purpose long enough, it becomes our identity (the definition we give to ourselves).

It is important to find a path to Levels Three and Four before they hit “rock bottom”.

A THREE-STEP PROCESS FOR TRANSFORMING

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ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE

ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE
ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE

HAS ANYONE SEEN THE WORLD OF ANGELS?

Linda Sabbath, a mystic, heard ten thousand bells in her head and sounds like the swooshing of ten thousand feathers about her. She knew that there were angels nearby. These angels were translucent, rose-colored, and blasted her with powerful perfumes. They said nothing to her in words; they just hovered above. They were enormous, almost as big as a church nearby.

There is a world out there, of such luminous power and mystery that she had rarely described. It is a world where angels sing praises to their Maker day and night. Yet,”singing” and “praising” don’t begin to describe what they do. Nor does dance or flying or play. What they do is beyond any of these actions, beyond love, beyond life, beyond time, space, or any category that we use to describe our finite world.

These angels are present in our homes, our buildings, and intertwine us as intimately as the air. Yet, we go about our business, living as in a dark cave, unaware of angels and their works all around us.

ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE
ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE

THE STORY OF ONE ANGEL

A handsome stranger sat at the edge of the deep end of the apartment swimming pool where I was swimming. I found it unusual for someone to be sitting in that particular location.

I lifted myself up beside him and we began to chat. In a very short period of time, he asked all the right questions: What type of work was I doing? Was I happy in this work? He had a ready solution to my unhappy work situation. He revealed to me that they were interviewing for teachers in the following weekend.

To verify this new information, I discovered a nondescript advertisement buried in the middle of the local newspaper. Most people would have missed this ad. Sure enough, they were interviewing for high school teachers.

Thus began by life long career that began with the direction of what I can only describe as an angel and an answer to our prayers.

“An angel from heaven appeared to Him and strengthened Him.”                                                                                                                                        Luke 22:43

That is exactly what happened as a result of being directed by an angel.

THE THREE GUARDIAN ANGELS

“Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation?”                                                                                Hebrews 1:14

ANGELS RESPONSE
ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE

Michael O’Brien is a popular Christian novelist, who has published many books. In his biography, On the Edge of Infinity”, page 63, he described what happened to him when he was about to make a drastic mistake by crossing on river ice that was very dangerous. He had been successful in crossing the first time, but on his return, the conditions of the ice changed drastically and he was too tired to notice the difference.

He had just reached the edge of the river, when a car came along the road and stopped beside him. Inside the car were three young men, in their twenties, who asked “Where are you going?” Come with us and we will drive you to the bridge.”

To Michael the car seemed to come from nowhere and the three men looked unusual.  They were all unusually handsome and their faces were flawless. Their mannerisms were full of politeness and open-hearted goodness. One of them addressed Michael by name, which was by itself surprising. It appeared that God had arranged to come to his rescue at exactly the right time.

 A WHOLE BOY SCOUT TROOP OF ANGELS?

“He will command His angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways.”                                                                                                    Psalm 91:11

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ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE

Before we had a family, my wife, Luba, who was pregnant at the time, and myself were touring the Whiteface Mountain in Northern New York. We drove an old 1951 Kaiser that did not have functioning emergency brakes. They were never needed on flat prairie land where we grew up. Continue reading ANGELS: GOD’S QUICK RESPONSE

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