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UNFORGIVENESS

UNFORGIVENESS

The root cause of unforgiveness is bitterness and hatred towards the person who has offended us.

One of the hardest things in life is to let go of old hurts. We often say, or at least think: “What you did to me and my family, my ancestors, or my friends I cannot forget or forgive. … One day you will have to pay for it.” Sometimes our memories are decades, even centuries, old and keep asking for revenge.

Holding people’s faults against them often creates an impenetrable wall. But listen to Paul: “For anyone who is in Christ, there is a new creation: the old order is gone and a new being is there to see. It is all God’s work”. 2 Corinthians 5:17-18 Indeed, we cannot let go of old hurts, but God can. Paul says: “God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not holding anyone’s fault against them”.                  2 Corinthians 5:19. It is God’s work, but we are God’s ministers, because the God who reconciled the world to God entrusted to us “the message of reconciliation”. 2 Corinthians 5:19 This message calls us to let go of old hurts in the Name of God. 

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UNFORGIVENESS

SO YOU ARE A VICTIM

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HIDDEN UNFORGIVENESS

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Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind anyone whom you need to forgive. Respond to His prompting and specifically name each person. Remember, the ones that you find hardest to forgive are the ones you most need to forgive. You can use these words:

I forgive all who have harmed me or wronged me in the past. In particular, I forgive (name those who you need to forgive). It is done in heaven.

Forgiveness is a decision. It is not an emotion. Yet, psychologically, you may still find it difficult to forgive someone who really harmed you. This is when you take it upon yourself to pray a short prayer for that person including the above prayer every day for ten days. It will also be done in your mind.

Why is the important? God offers to forgive your ten million dollar debt to Him if you forgive a ten thousand dollar debt for someone is owed you. If you persist in holding on to this debt, God will hold onto yours. It becomes merely enlightened self-interest.

 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”                                                                                                                                                  Mark 11:25

BLESSING AND CURSES Derek Prince

The root cause of unforgiveness is bitterness and hatred towards the person who has offended us.

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SOUL MATES

SOUL MATES

The soul has a strong desire and need for intimacy, and it loves vernacular life—that particular place, family, friends, neighborhood that are part of our daily life. That is why we look at ways of being in any kind of relationship soulfully: bonds that we feel with certain people.

A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected by divine grace. There is nothing more precious in life than our soul mate. Actually, this form of intimacy is not limited to one person or one form.

We are not talking about the interpersonal mechanics that comes to the foreground. Some nonchalantly say that we are simply programmed to act the way we do – almost like a machine. Not so! Today’s communication is technically sophisticated and speedy, but not necessarily more soulful.

We are dealing with questions like, “what is this thing when we fall madly in love?”, or “Why is this deep love never seemed to be satisfied?”, or “What is it that the soul wants upon separation?”

Some of us are frustrated and ask, “What is this continued failure to find love?” There are troubling aspects: doubts, distancing, desire for separation and freedom and endings. We suffer symptoms of loss of soul. The reason why we have so much trouble with relationships today may be our neglect of the study of the soul.

SOUL MATES

The soul loves attachments of all kinds – to places, ideas, times, sounds and music even in the ordinary details of everyday life. There are two pulls on our life: one upward toward success, progress, and intellectual clarity and another downward into individual, quiet life.

We have strong desires to have a family, live with another person, or join a community and yet after this has been satisfied, we are still drawn in exactly the opposite direction – our intimacy and our solitude. We must learn to honor both togetherness and individuality at the same time, even though we may sometimes feel a tug to one side only.

There are really two goals: one, to come to know yourself and two, to get to know the deep and subtle richness of the soul of the other. The final objective is to be both intimately connected with one another and at the same time, preserve one’s integrity and individuality.

This can be accomplished by giving the other sufficient emotional space in which to live and express one; then to risk revealing your own soul, complete with all its own absurdities. There are deep roots that may never have been revealed because of a lack o communication. The solution is not knowledge but love and a feeling that “you are accepted” by the other

We look at ourselves and we don’t like what we see. We try to change but the old imperfections remain steadfast. The basis of all relationships starts with the recognition that you have to be a friend to yourself – intimacy with oneself. The answer has everything to do with developing a good, intimate relationship to our own soul and the soul of others.

SOUL MATES

THE SOUL OF THE FAMILY

People living in the modern life often complain about a loss of traditional values and about feeling aimless, rootless and adrift. The culture of the family is a resource into which a person may dip throughout one’s life for direction, meaning and style.

One task is to forgive our parents for being imperfect. Life is much richer if we could let go of the excuse of parental failure and to establish a satisfying relationship with them. We benefit from the richness of a family and in particular of family stories, which identify who we are. The family may be one of the most powerful creative forces in our lives.

SOUL MATES

THE SOUL OF MARRIAGE

There is intermingling of souls that culminate in marriage – a demanding form of relationship. Marriage is a mystery, a sacrament and a sacred symbolic act. The interior of marriage is magical: it is fulfilling union that supplies a profound need for meaning, fulfillment and relatedness: a good home, fine children, happy days. Continue reading SOUL MATES

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NEED FOR FORGIVENESS

 RECEIVING FORGIVENESS

One of the greatest challenges of the spiritual life is to receive God’s forgiveness. There is something in us humans that keeps us clinging to our sins and preventing us from letting God erase our past and offer us completely new beginnings. Sometimes it even seem as though we want to prove to God that our darkness is too great to overcome.                                                                                     

There are two sides to forgiveness: giving and receiving. Although at first sight giving seems to be harder, it often appears that we are not able to offer forgiveness to others because we have not been able fully to receive it. Only as people who have accepted forgiveness can we find the inner freedom to give it. Why is receiving forgiveness so difficult? It is very hard to say, “Without your forgiveness I am still bound to what happened between us. Only you can set me free.” That requires not only a confession that we have hurt somebody but also the humility to acknowledge our dependency on others. Only when we can receive forgiveness can we give it.                                                                                        HENRI NOUWEN

“Should a man nourish anger against his fellows and expect healing from the LORD?
Should a man refuse mercy to his fellows, yet seek pardon for his own sins?

If he who is but flesh cherishes wrath, who will forgive his sins?
Remember your last days, set enmity aside; remember death and decay, and cease from sin. ”                                                            Sirach 28:3-6

NEED FOR FORGIVENESS

One of the hardest things in life is to let go of old hurts. We often say, or at least think: “What you did to me and my family, my ancestors, or my friends I cannot forget or forgive. … One day you will have to pay for it.” Sometimes our memories are decades, even centuries old, and keep asking for revenge.

Yes, we can get attached to these negative identities and even take morbid pleasure in them. It might be good to have a look at these dark feelings and explore where they come from. Henri Nouwen Continue reading NEED FOR FORGIVENESS

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FORGIVENESS DELIVERANCE

WE ARE ALL IN NEED OF FORGIVENESS.

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Forgiveness is to our best interest because God said he can only forgive us only when we forgive others. “Forgive, and you will be forgiven,” Luke 6:37. “When you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins,” Mark 11:25. God lifts the penalty for the unforgiveness.  Favor comes from God when forgiveness is applied.

FORGIVENESS DELIVERANCE 

This can be solved by a prayer  of deliverance. Whatever has you in bondage can be broken by the power of the almighty God in the Name of Jesus.

WHAT IS DELIVERANCE?

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Deliverance is defined as “a rescue from bondage or danger.” Deliverance is often sought from evil spirits or the spirit of lust, jealousy, etc. We are told to “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith.”                                                                                                                                                  1 Peter 5:8,9

All aspects of deliverance are available only through the person and work of Jesus Christ:” When the seventy-two disciples returned, they joyfully reported to him, ‘Lord, even the demons obey us when we use your name!’”                                                                              Luke 10:17

 DO YOU NEED DELIVERANCE?

To determine if you are in need of deliverance, ask yourself the following questions: Continue reading FORGIVENESS DELIVERANCE

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HEALING OF RELATIONSHIPS

DEMONIC INFLUENCES

Many of us have demonic influences within us, but we also have the dashing prince. Before the Prince can save the damsel in distress, he has to slay the dragons that surround the castle. These demons are our wounds, our fears from our egos. A good example is women who always seem to meet emotionally abusive men. The problem is that these women have always known that pain. They almost feel comfortable with that pain. Their demons must be bound and delivered away: the spirits of poor unforgiveness, self-esteem, trauma and fear.

Sometimes the moment the pain is greatest is a wonderful opportunity: we might actually make a slip and ask Heaven for help. You decide that you need to be healed. A process of miraculous change takes place which is twofold:

  1. I see my error or dysfunctional pattern
  2. I ask God to take it from me: “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.”                                                                                                 1 John 5:14

The healing must happen. They then learn to pray for each other and for the healing of relationships: to reignite one’s love. What is required is deliverance.

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?                                                  James 4:1

As victims of a sin-nature, we tend to be blind to our own sins and at the same time we are driven to blame our spouse or anyone else for own bad behavior.  As Christians, we are called to examine our own personal flaws and to respond to our spouse with understanding and compassion.

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Unfortunately, many justify their action by telling ourselves, “I can’t help it!”, which is a myth or a lie.  Another reason for arguments is that we too easily give in to our own negative feelings.  Jesus called us to rise above our feelings, not to allow them to dominate our will and to continue loving no matter what.

Another flaw in our thinking is something called, “weather proofing” our relationship, which is an arrogant attempt to change one’s spouse into a perfect fantasy in one’s mind of what a spouse should be.  What a dangerous illusion!  One partner may foster conflict by thinking the other has an evil intent, which is usually not true. When one judges in this way, one is putting on a superiority: he or she is not good enough for me.  Remember only God has the right to judge.

This feeling that the spouse is deliberately out to wound the other, leads to insecurity, which in turn leads to low moods; these low moods cause the spouse to lose one’s warm feelings, which in itself is destructive. It is really a cry for help.

If one spouse is in a low mood, it is very difficult to use reason.  That spouse has lost touch with logic and has lost sight of reality. Conversely, as one’s spouse begins to feel more secure, one’s mood begins to rise and one will once more break out into the sunlight. Hope is the usual medicine.

When both are in a high mood again, and can think clearly, both should discuss what happened and try to practice a new strategy.  To avoid this pitfall, both must agree to inform the other when one is in a low mood before it explodes.  It must be agreed on how each should react to respond to a partner’s  low mood. 

We know that men and women think and act differently. We also know that two partners may come from totally different family backgrounds and experiences.  Despite these differences, it would be ideal if both partners begin to change. Even if only one makes the effort, there is usually a wonderful response by the other.

If one’s attitude is excitement at the spouse’s way of seeing the world, one will continue to be in a high mood, constantly stimulated by the partner’s ideas and never feeling threatened by them.

INCOMPATIBILITY

We should discard all false notions of “incompatibility”, which is a myth and an feeble excuse to avoid real commitment.  Christians can love one another whether they are compatible or not in the eyes of the world.

A perceived problem is in fact a state of mind, which can manufacture a problem out of anything or even out of nothing.  A change of heart  is necessary.  We have available to us even a higher spiritual change of heart, which prompts us to “lay down my life” for the other. John 10:15 This can only occur with the help of the Holy Spirit. It means that daily we submit ourselves to the will of God — accepting Jesus Christ as one’s personal Lord and Saviour and following in His footsteps and if necessary carrying  His cross.

This leads to true conversion: the husband begins to live for his wife instead of for himself, while his wife begins to live for him, rather than for herself.  If I “lay down my life” for my wife and live for her happiness, I need never worry, since it is very likely that she will do the same thing in turn for me.  The result is that my wife’s needs will be met and my needs will also be met. Instead of living a self-centred life, I live an other-centred life, and I am empowered to do this because I live for God first.

“Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”                                                                                   Philippians 2:1-4

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.’ Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky.”                                                              Philippians 2:14-15 

  • The first step usually begins with an ordinary counseling session to find out how the partners feel about themselves and their relationship.

Much of what holds people back in life is their unresolved feelings and judgments regarding their relationships, even relationships in the distant past. These feelings and judgments act as a kind of dam, holding people’s feelings back, arresting them in place, influencing their perception of other people and disabling them from being able to be emotionally open. Continue reading HEALING OF RELATIONSHIPS

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POWER of the BLOOD of JESUS

 THE BLOOD OF JESUS CHRIST

 The Blood of Jesus Christ

A few drops of blood renew the whole world

The Blood of Jesus has always been an important concept to Christian people down through the centuries of Christian belief. The inspired Scriptures contain numerous references to the significance of the blood of Christ.

 The blood of Jesus is regarded by many as far more than merely an historical fact. It has become for them a present, living, potent reality. Blood is the life of the body. Christ’s body died, but His blood did not die.

For if the blood of bulls and goats and the ashes of a heifer, sprinkling the unclean, sanctifies for the purifying of the flesh, how much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself without spot to God, cleanse your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?                                    Hebrews 9:13-14

We enter into this new covenant with God by faith. By faith we receive the blood that Jesus shed as a holy sacrifice for our sins. The blood of Jesus makes us holy and worthy to receive God’s Holy Spirit in us. In this new covenant we agree to be led by God’s Holy Spirit. The proof of our faith is our obedience to God. Faith without works is dead faith. For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also. James 2:26 When we are not obeying the Holy Spirit we feel dead. 

 The Blood of Jesus Christ
The Blood of Jesus Christ

If you can receive this teaching of Jesus, and then put it into practice, your life will be dramatically changed. Spiritually feeding on Jesus body and drinking His blood will fill you with His very life, because the life is in the blood, Deuteronomy 2:23. Then Jesus said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink His blood, you have no life in you. “Whoever eats My flesh and drinks My blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. “For My flesh is food indeed, and My blood is drink indeed. “He who eats My flesh and drinks My blood abides in Me, and I in him. “As the living Father sent Me, and I live because of the Father, so he who feeds on Me will live because of Me.”  John 6:53-57 Food gives us nourishment, strength, and satisfaction. Jesus is our spiritual source of nourishment, strength, and satisfaction.

BLOOD OF JESUS

Applying the Blood of Jesus

Just as priests applied the blood in the old covenant, we as priests in the new covenant are to apply the blood of Jesus. This is the blood of the testament which God hath enjoined unto you. Hebrews 9:20  The word enjoined means to be given charge of. In the old covenant the priest applied the blood of animals by sprinkling. In the new covenant we receive the blood by faith and sprinkle the blood with our words. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:10

You apply the blood of Jesus to yourself when you say, “the blood of Jesus which He shed on the cross was for me, and it makes me free from sin and all unrighteousness.” Whatever we apply the blood to is made Holy. When the blood is applied so also is God’s grace and the anointing of the Holy Spirit applied.

Then I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, “Now salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brethren, who accused them before our God day and night, has been cast down. And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death.”                                                                                                                                    Revelation 12:10-11    In the old covenant they applied the blood by sprinkling,              Hebrews 9:19. In the new covenant we apply the blood by our words.

 The Blood of Jesus Christ
The Blood of Jesus Christ

You can apply the blood of Jesus to your body to receive healing, Isaiah 53:5. You can apply the blood of Jesus to your mind, to receive a sound mind. You can apply the blood of Jesus to your home, Exodus 12:13. You can apply the blood of Jesus to your children, Job 1:5. You can apply the blood of Jesus to anyone and anything that you have authority over or influence upon. It is your right as God’s child. Also in obedience to God’s Holy Spirit you should apply the blood of Jesus to anything or anyone that He tells you to. It is your duty as a royal priest of the most High God. But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;                                                                                   1 Peter 2:9   Continue reading POWER of the BLOOD of JESUS

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