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UNFORGIVENESS

UNFORGIVENESS

The root cause of unforgiveness is bitterness and hatred towards the person who has offended us.

One of the hardest things in life is to let go of old hurts. We often say, or at least think: “What you did to me and my family, my ancestors, or my friends I cannot forget or forgive. … One day you will have to pay for it.” Sometimes our memories are decades, even centuries, old and keep asking for revenge.

Holding people’s faults against them often creates an impenetrable wall. But listen to Paul: “For anyone who is in Christ, there is a new creation: the old order is gone and a new being is there to see. It is all God’s work”. 2 Corinthians 5:17-18 Indeed, we cannot let go of old hurts, but God can. Paul says: “God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not holding anyone’s fault against them”.                  2 Corinthians 5:19. It is God’s work, but we are God’s ministers, because the God who reconciled the world to God entrusted to us “the message of reconciliation”. 2 Corinthians 5:19 This message calls us to let go of old hurts in the Name of God. 

UNFORGIVENESS
UNFORGIVENESS

SO YOU ARE A VICTIM

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‘CHEAP SEX’ IS DESTROYING MARRIAGE

A NEW MORALITY OF SEX?

The words of the pope and the Vatican commissions fall for the most part on deaf ears, as is obvious from polls and other indications that even faithful Catholics no longer conform to Church teachings on sex. Vatican efforts against “artificial” methods of birth control have been in vain, and the Church has suffered such a general loss of credibility that its preachments on sex are ignored if not scorned by the overwhelming majority of Catholics.

Christian fundamentalists see it, of course, as a clear indication of the devil’s power over fallen humanity. But their hellfire-and-brimstone warnings reach only a tiny portion.

The enormous increase in the material standard of living, allows people more freedom to experiment.

There is an increasing corruption of morals and unbridled exaltation of sex. In addition, Christians are confused because of the diversity of opinions contrary to the teaching of the Church.

The Church’s position is enunciated in the basic principle, drawn from natural law, that the sexual function has its true meaning and moral goodness only in marriage, so the document of the Church goes on to rule out premarital sex, homosexual acts and masturbation .

Premarital sex is ruled out by the Church even when the partners are deeply committed to each other and are impeded from marrying only by adverse circumstances.

On the other hand, sex has the potential to bring people to the deepest level of intimacy.

CHEAP SEXCHEAP SEX

In his recently released book “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage and Monogamy,” Regnerus examines the dramatic changes in American sexual beliefs that have led to an inability among increasing numbers of young men and women to marry, have children and be faithful to one another.

Three technological developments — highly effective contraceptives, high-quality Internet pornography and on-line dating/meeting services — have made sex (or sexual release) as easy to get in the U.S. as  water from a tap. Together, they drive down the cost of real sex, and in turn slow the development of love, make fidelity more challenging and have even taken a toll on men’s marriage ability. No longer playing a supporting role in relationships, sex has emerged as a central priority in relationships.

Everything in this new world is instantaneous……..everything is available and at their finger tips! Cheap sex has become like eating fast food. it is a NOW generation. They younger generation has a hard time looking down the road –planning for the future.

There is an emergence of something called Confluent Love”, which is “not forever” love, but love that asks whether this relationship is satisfying for both parties. When one party answers “no,” the relationship does not continue. Confluent love is the new norm that is shaping our dating and marriage relationships. For good or ill, neither partner will be happy with the final result.

In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex. To get a wife (and, therefore, sex), men had to be clean and presentable and have a good job. This, Regnerus reasons, gave men all the motivation they needed to become respectable members of society. Nowadays young men can skip the detour of getting education and career prospects to qualify for sex. Now with porn on demand and greater reproductive freedom, sex is a commodity available at any time.

MEN AND WOMEN DIFFERENCES

Men and women are not the same with regard to sex. In general, men have more desire for sex than women. Women desire sex too, but they also want it with love, attention, care and, if they are smart, permanence. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and even if they don’t want to give it away cheaply, men now expect it and can go elsewhere if a woman does not put out. In other words, if women want male attention, they have to give sex away cheaply because other women do and men won’t hang around if they don’t. It’s a vicious circle which leads to untold numbers of young people who have failed relationship after failed relationship.

WOMEN DIFFICULTIES

Many women tend to be so hungry for love and touch that a little sex may give it to them, and so they may keep men on a chain. As compared to the past, many women today expect little in return for sex, in terms of time, attention, commitment or fidelity. Men, in turn, do not feel compelled to supply these goods as they once did.

Heterosexual women will have increasing difficulties finding a partner worth committing to. This leads women to settle, entering into doomed or otherwise unsatisfying marriages.

Women are getting married less because they are getting higher paying and higher educational jobs. But because women want to marry up, they only want to date the top 20% of men this presents a unique problem when all of the female population wants the same top 20% of men 

TRUE LOVECHEAP SEX TRUE LOVE

There are those who still believe in the sanctity of marriage or a solid committed relationship with one partner. They believe in romantic LOVE that is for the long haul. They are usually loyal to whoever they fall in LOVE with. They believe in the old school ways of thinking where people stayed in marriages for better or worst. Whoever they fall in LOVE with will always come home to them.

There are many people who are very much in LOVE and who prefer to be together without the signed contract of marriage. Others prefer the one on one kind of committed LOVE celebrated at the altar with God as the third important Partner. These are healthy relationships, where both people should have their own personal space to shine in their own beautiful light. It’s that kind of LOVE that you can see yourself having a life with, creating a family, growing old with and seeing your children become adults and being grandparents together. This is the kind of love that men are losing by not marrying. Whoever you fall in LOVE with will always come home to you.

SOCIAL CHANGECHEAP SEX

Marriage has become less of a priority for both genders simply because it is no longer made out to be the sole purpose of growing up in life… Education, travel, independence have all become valid and attainable choices for many. Both men and women no longer feel pressured to marry young.

These developments steer people away from thinking of sex as having anything to do with love, monogamy, or child-bearing — all traits that most Americans have long equated with marriage. Because sex is so readily available, people have lost the script that led them to marriage, family and permanence.

As women start to become more demanding of men, men turn away from women in pursuit of pleasure that costs little to nothing. We have failing rates of marriage and even greater rates of divorce.

As a consequence, men lose 50% of their property (real estate, cash, investments, etc) after divorce, plus add to this amount up to 18 years child support, including spousal support. So the costs can be staggering.

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OVERCOMING STRESS

EVERYONE IS FAMILIAR WITH STRESS.

PANIC OR ANXIETY ATTACKS

Anxiety or panic attacks can be caused by a consequence of circumstances and relationships in our lives. In small doses, stress can benefit us, but when it is too great, it affects our physical and mental functions.

“Save me, O God,
    for the waters have come up to my neck.
I sink in the miry depths,
    where there is no foothold.
I have come into the deep waters;
    the floods engulf me.”                                    Psalm 69:1-2

Many of us have felt stress as a result of the pressure of expectation—of not being good enough: good enough to make the team or good enough to be popular. When we fail to meet these expectations, disappointment can be crushing. Sometimes pressure or stress continues no matter how hard we try: it is simply too overwhelming.

To make matters worse, we may know that we are in this awful position because of our own fault. Some of the pressures of life could have been avoided with better personal choices.

ANXIETY ATTACK
ANXIETY ATTACK

We can also experience stress of waiting for God to meet His own expectations:

“I am worn out calling for help;
    my throat is parched.
My eyes fail,
    looking for my God.”                                        Psalm 69:3

To begin with, we should never make important decisions when we are under pressure. The ramifications can affect the rest of your life.

Asking for help may seem very humbling. We have to acknowledge our personal inadequacy.

“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.”                                                                                                                                                1 Peter 5: 6, 7

We simply say, “Help me Lord, because you are a God of mercy.”—“in Your time

“But I pray to You, Lord,
    in the time of Your favor;
in your great love, O God,
    answer me with Your sure salvation.”  Psalm 69:13

David chooses to find his release from stress by praising God. This is another way of saying that you trust God to solve your problem.

“I will praise God’s name in song
    and glorify Him with thanksgiving.”  Psalm 69:30

HOW DOES PRAYER WORK?

Will we ever know how prayer works as long as we live in this earthly existence? Any scientific explanation remains quite elusive. Scientists simply don’t know. This question is similar to the riddle of how our conscience works.  These are the deepest questions pertaining to God. Albert Einstein once admitted that “Science without religion is lame.”

DIRECTING YOUR PRAYERS INWARDLY: MEDITATION

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OVERCOMING FEAR

YOUNG AND RESTLESS

When you are young, you feel invincible. Life stretches before you without limits. Then you grow up and you take on more responsibilities. You have to be more ready for eventualities that require things like insurance and savings.

You start to see life as increasingly fragile and you begin to hedge your bets. Before you would just “go for it”, but now your look for the safe ground.

Then events begin to unravel around you, like the September 11, 2001 terrorist attack. The world’s only super power had been brought to its knees by a handful of terrorists with box cutters.

THE POWER OF FEAR

President Roosevelt spoke about fear itself in 1933: nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror that paralyzes us. He said,” the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”

David captured the immobilization of that fear:

“I will watch my ways
    and keep my tongue from sin;
I will put a muzzle on my mouth

    while in the presence of the wicked.”
So I remained utterly silent,
    not even saying anything good.
But my anguish increased.”                           
Psalm 39:1-2

When we are threatened, fear clouds our judgment and can impede us from doing the right thing.

LIFE IS SHORT.

 “Surely every man at his best is a mere breath.” Psalm 39:5 And we “make an uproar over nothing” orin vain we rush about”  Psalm 39:6 So we must make sure that our lives count for something.

There is hope:” “But now, Lord, what do I look for?
    My hope is in You. Psalm 39:7

We can regret our limitations that we endure and live accordingly, or we can live our lives to make a difference. We should not to be governed by the length of our days, but by the depth of our commitment.

Only God can overwhelm our sense of futility with His purpose. Only God can defeat our temporary existence with the hope of life that is everlasting (heaven).

LOOK FOR HIDDEN ROOTS.

It is a demonic and yes, you can be delivered of it. Look for hidden roots.  Examples of roots are guilt, which is defined as a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, failure, mistake, crime, or wrong, whether real or imagined. It is associated with negative feelings such as shame, remorse, anguish, torment, self-condemnation, self-unforgiveness, self-judgment.

Do you often wondered about your own problems:

  1.  An inordinate desire to please
  2. Inability to say no to things I didn’t want to do
  3. Always setting goals, working hard to accomplish them and then stopping short of success
  4. Always feeling I had to do things better than anyone else  
  5. Trying to make everything around me and about me look better than I thought it was

Important Questions you should Ask Yourself:

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MARIJUANA: RISK OF PSYCHOSIS

High-potency cannabis, or frequent use, raises the risk of psychosis

Regular use of cannabis with a high potency (HIGHER THAN 10%) increases the risk of developing psychosis five-fold, according to a study published this week by the Lancet. It also found that using less potent strains daily increased the risk three-fold. This study looked at cannabis use among 901 European patients newly diagnosed with psychosis including schizophrenia. In London, 30% of new cases of psychosis in the study were estimated to be tied to strong cannabis.

In addition, the risk of developing psychosis or schizophrenia increases when cannabis use is initiated before the age of 16. Also, persons with a family history of psychosis or schizophrenia who use cannabis are at greater risk of developing psychosis and schizophrenia. Cannabis users with a family history of psychosis are 2.5 to 10 times more likely to develop psychotic disorders, compared to non-users with a family history.

IS IT GOOD FOR OUR HEALTH?

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THE METH SCOURGE

THE METH SCOURGE
THE METH SCOURGE

The scourge of crystal meth, with its exploding labs and ruinous effect on teeth and skin, has been all but forgotten amid national concern over the opioid crisisMeth has returned with a vengeance. In Oregon, meth-related deaths vastly outnumber those from heroin.

Mexican drug cartels stepped in and have inundated the market with so much pure, low-cost meth that dealers have more of it than they know what to do with. Under pressure from traffickers to unload large quantities, dealers are even offering meth to customers on credit. 

Heroin is a depressant. It shuts you down and you’re not capable of doing a whole lot. In contrast, meth is a stimulant: addicts have lowered inhibitions and are awake 24/7, running around at night, so night burglaries abound. Eighty or 90 percent of heroin users are also using meth to temper the effects.

Like opioids, meth is highly addictive and difficult to quit. Meth has been overshadowed by opiates. Unfortunately, there are fewer tools to combat meth than to combat opioids: There is nothing like Naloxone, which can reverse opioid overdoses, or methadone, which can stem opioid cravings.

Meth or methamphetamine use is plausibly responsible for as many if not more drug-related crimes, episodes of violence, and trips to the emergency room than any other substance (discounting all of our daily opiate overdoses)

Meth first overloads and then eventually disables the dopamine system in the brain, which is not good. Meth exacerbates any pre-existing psychosis or induces psychosis altogether. Frequent users often report they hear voices, see “shadow figures,” experience severe paranoia, and endorse full-blown psychotic delusions. When you couple these sorts of psychotic symptoms with frequently hyper-aggressive and/or hyper-sexual behavior while intoxicated, you have a real public health problem. Addicts become semi-aware fragments of themselves, arousing and satisfying their darker impulses.

Meth kills by overloading blood vessels, eventually resulting in aneurysms, heart failure and strokes. As a result, long time older users are likeliest to die—in San Francisco, the average age of those who die of a meth overdose is 49.

METH SCOURGE
THE METH SCOURGE

The White House Council of Economic Advisers estimates the total social cost of the opioid crisis to the country in 2015 was as high as $504 billion, or 2.8% of GDP. Continue reading THE METH SCOURGE

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HIDDEN UNFORGIVENESS

UNFORGIVENESS
UNFORGIVENESS

Ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind anyone whom you need to forgive. Respond to His prompting and specifically name each person. Remember, the ones that you find hardest to forgive are the ones you most need to forgive. You can use these words:

I forgive all who have harmed me or wronged me in the past. In particular, I forgive (name those who you need to forgive). It is done in heaven.

Forgiveness is a decision. It is not an emotion. Yet, psychologically, you may still find it difficult to forgive someone who really harmed you. This is when you take it upon yourself to pray a short prayer for that person including the above prayer every day for ten days. It will also be done in your mind.

Why is the important? God offers to forgive your ten million dollar debt to Him if you forgive a ten thousand dollar debt for someone is owed you. If you persist in holding on to this debt, God will hold onto yours. It becomes merely enlightened self-interest.

 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”                                                                                                                                                  Mark 11:25

BLESSING AND CURSES Derek Prince

The root cause of unforgiveness is bitterness and hatred towards the person who has offended us.

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STEPHEN HAWKING AND EVIL

STEPHEN HAWKING AND EVIL

Stephen William Hawking: an English theoretical physicist and cosmologist at the University of Cambridge, who scored one of the highest possible score — 160 — on his Mensa IQ test, died recently on March 14, 2018.

 Hawking said he didn’t believe in a personal God and that God did not create the universe. He claimed that the laws of physics themselves brought the Universe into being, rather than God:

The science-religion debate has been going on since science was born, centuries ago. Until relatively recently, it seemed to have quietened down, but now Hawking and others have brought it back into the limelight.

We need to stop thinking therefore that science is the fount of all knowledge. It’s simply not. Science does not tell us how we ought to live—science isn’t ethics. Scientists and religious believers should keep out of each other’s territory. But this is naive. The science-religion relationship is a sure-fire source of publicity, which is always welcome when one has a book to sell.

No religion has ever been set out in terms of scientific statements. This is why scientists are able to mock the claims of religions but have never been able to deal a knock-out blow: in the end, a religious believer can always fall back on a faith that does not depend on verification.

Einstein claimed that the greatest mystery of the universe was that its most fundamental laws can be expressed in terms of beautiful mathematical equations. Einstein followed closely the views of the concept of God as an expression of the underlying unity of the universe, something so wondrous that it can command a spiritual awe.

Hawking’s view appears to be that the belief in a God-created universe can be supplanted by a belief in M-theory (a form of string theory). One problem with the theory is that it looks as though it will be extremely difficult to test, unless physicists can build a particle accelerator the size of a galaxy. Even if the experimenters find a way round this and M-theory passes all their tests, the reasons for the mathematical order at the heart of the universe’s order would still remain an unsolvable mystery.

NONSENSE REMAINS NONSENSE

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LONG TERM KETO DIET?

LONG TERM KETO DIET
SHOULD PEOPLE FOLLOW THE KETO DIET LONG TERM? 

The ketogenic diet was originally introduced in 1920. Studies suggest that there are definite short-term benefits of a high-fat ketogenic diet. Sugar and highly refined foods are killing us! It is estimated that in the United States alone approximately 300,000 people die each year from obesity-related diseases.

It has been found that a sugary diet is the root cause of various chronic diseases of the body and it accelerates aging. This is cause be a reduction of the amount of antioxidants in the body. Sugar consumption is positively associated with cancer:  tumors are known to be enormous sugar absorbers.

There are many already healthy individuals adhering to it who may find problems in the long run from a less varied diet. Once your condition has improved, it won’t hurt to widen your menu. When cycling in and out of this diet you can still eat healthy – no processed foods but sweet potatoes, lentils etc are okay.

We know how controversial this issue can be. In a 2004 study, 83 obese patients confirmed that it is also safe to use a ketogenic diet for a longer period of time. The study included the additional micro nutrients (vitamins and minerals) which were given to each subject in the form of one capsule per day.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2716748/

 LONG TERM KETO DIET
A 15 % DROP IN BODY WEIGHT IN 24 WEEKS

 LONG TERM KETO DIET
A 12% DROP IN CHOLESTEROL IN 24 WEEKS

This is important to know about long term advantages because of all the health issues that can be addressed. A link between low fat diets and osteoporosis has been suggested. Very low fat diets are considered to be low in calcium content. Women on low fat diets excrete most of the calcium they consume; therefore, they are more prone to osteoporosis. However, a high fat diet can rectify this situation.

LONG TERM KETO DIET

People are going Keto because they feel better on it. Keto is useful for treating a disease, like epilepsy (children go from 4 seizures a week to 1 a month on a keto diet) or obesity and reversal of diabetes type 2 and a clear complexion without acne! It has been further shown that a ketogenic diet could act as a mood stabilizer in bipolar illness.

NOT ATKINS

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SOLUTIONS TO BULLYING

Bullying Solutions

SUFFERING IN SILENCE

Bullying can enter a kid’s life at anytime and send them spiraling down towards hopelessness and despair. The young victims are rarely aware of the options available to them, which is why they continue to suffer in silence. You need to help your child realize that they’re not weak and help them discover ways to bring their torment to an end.

A SUFFOCATING EXPERIENCE

Bullying can often leave the victim feeling utterly distraught, making them feel like the walls are closing in on them and that there’s no easy escape from the nightmare. People they turn to for help can let them down, thus reinforcing their sense of isolation. Depression despair and desperation can drive them to the edge, tempting them to end their misery at the expense of their health, dreams and even life.

WARNING SIGNS

The Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA) identify these possible warning signs for bullying:

  • Child comes home with torn, damaged or missing clothes, books, or belongings
  • Unexplained cuts, bruises, scratches
  • Has few friends, if any
  • Seems afraid to go to school or take part in after-school activities
  • Takes a long “illogical” route when walking to and from school
  • Has lost interest in school work or suddenly begins to do poorly
  • Appears sad, moody, teary, or depressed when he/she comes home
  • Has trouble sleeping and/or frequent bad dreams
  • Experiences a loss of appetite
  • Appears anxious and suffers from low self-esteem
  • Recurrent complaints of physical symptoms such as stomach-aches or headaches with no apparent cause
  • Sudden change in language (calling themselves a “loser” or a best friend a “jerk”)

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