HIGH STAKES OF GAMBLING ADDICTION
Psychologist Roger Barrett, Ph.D., of Canton, Ohio, says that negative feelings are like a cork that needs to be popped in order to begin letting out the good feelings. In time, anger becomes forgiveness; despair leads to declaration. In other words, gambling addiction is nothing more than a symptom that goes deeper.
Addicted gamblers have lived with incredible emotional pain for years. Most come from troubled homes. “Easily 80 percent of our gamblers come from alcoholic or addicted homes where their parents were poor role models. Therefore, the child never learns control.
Gamblers Anonymous estimates that there are at least 10 million problem gamblers in the United States. By extrapolation, Canada suffers from 1.2 million problem gamblers.
There are huge costs to the family: financial losses in addition to profound wounds of the heart and soul. For example, 11 percent of wives of gamblers attempt suicide and 25 percent of children of compulsive gamblers have behavior and/or adjustment problems. Many go on to become addicted to gambling.
As time goes on, the gambler is no longer betting just in order to win, but instead to recover growing losses. Gamblers refer to this as “chasing,” the frantic pursuit of lost money. And in order to recoup, they take bigger and bigger chances leading to more and more losses.
The compulsion has already sent a deep wedge between the gambler and God. Now the addiction drives the gambler to do things he or she never would have considered before. These could include theft, embezzlement, prostitution, drug trafficking and other activities. Despair and depression increase, leading to confusion and panic that instigate poorly calculated bets, causing even more losses.
Some wind up in mental institutions or jails or living on the street. One out of every five players attempts suicide. Many gamblers, however, reach recovery.
CHANGING THE WAY WE LOOK AT LIFE
It takes a deep sense of humility to change long established attitudes. Egos are at work here. Your ego must be tamed. The power to be more selfless comes from the power of God. “The Kingdom is within you.” Luke 17:21
When we stop fighting against those things that can’t be changed, contentment becomes a possibility. Hope and openness enable us to see our possibilities. Without hope, there is no growth in our communion with God and with others.
JESUS WISHES TO SPEAK TO YOU.
BE READY TO RECEIVE MY GIFTS.
“I love you.
I am bringing you and all My friends into My heart today.
I want you to give yourselves completely to Me. Open your heart to contemplate Me today by focusing totally on Me for an extended period of time.
Let Me be free to do with you as I please. I wish to form you into that great masterpiece, if you allow Me.
Do you have resentments against anyone? Give them to Me and I will liberate you from them. Is there anger in your heart? I can take it all away if you ask Me. Do you have fear in your heart? I can free you of this fear and put perfect love instead, if you open your heart to Me. Are you attached to various things such as gambling, tobacco, alcohol or drugs? Give Me these things and I will get rid of them.
You must forget about yourself and abandon yourself to Me. You always have to fight against pride and anger. Cultivate humility and patience. Know that I was humiliated often when I was on earth. So offer any humiliation to Me out of love for Me.
Be ready to receive My gifts of peace, love, joy, perseverance and forgiveness if you have a contrite heart.
Never compare yourself to your friend or neighbor but strive to imitate the saints who lived a holy life by loving Me, their Savior.
Through contemplation you will grow to be the saint I want you to be. I bless you.”
These messages came to Father Melvin Doucette:
Fr. Melvin Doucette was ordained to the priesthood on and joined the Missionaries of Africa for 29 years in Africa. In contemplative prayer every morning, Fr. Doucette receives by interior locution “messages from heaven” to share with the public.
LET GO AND LET GOD.
The AA saying at Alcohol Anonymous is “Let go and let God.” We relinquish our concerns into the Hands of God so that we can live our lives without energy-depleting fear. Unreasonable fear is a terrible enemy. Many of us try to be in total control of our lives, and we discover that the results are disastrous.
You can be so bogged down with a problem that you lose your creative energy to find your way out of it.
There is no promise that storms won’t be part of our lives. But there is a promise that we won’t navigate through them by ourselves:”Trust in the Lord forever; He will always protect us.” Isaiah 26:3, 4
Could we actually believe that saying yes to God would bring us harm? It will bring us gain and not loss.
The key to our growth is our willingness to leave some space for God to do His work within us. We have hope because we know that we are loved.