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The soul has a strong desire and need for intimacy, and it loves vernacular life—that particular place, family, friends, neighborhood that are part of our daily life. That is why we look at ways of being in any kind of relationship soulfully: bonds that we feel with certain people.

A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected by divine grace. There is nothing more precious in life than our soul mate. Actually, this form of intimacy is not limited to one person or one form.

We are not talking about the interpersonal mechanics that comes to the foreground. Some nonchalantly say that we are simply programmed to act the way we do – almost like a machine. Not so! Today’s communication is technically sophisticated and speedy, but not necessarily more soulful.

We are dealing with questions like, “what is this thing when we fall madly in love?”, or “Why is this deep love never seemed to be satisfied?”, or “What is it that the soul wants upon separation?”

Some of us are frustrated and ask, “What is this continued failure to find love?” There are troubling aspects: doubts, distancing, desire for separation and freedom and endings. We suffer symptoms of loss of soul. The reason why we have so much trouble with relationships today may be our neglect of the study of the soul.


The soul loves attachments of all kinds – to places, ideas, times, sounds and music even in the ordinary details of everyday life. There are two pulls on our life: one upward toward success, progress, and intellectual clarity and another downward into individual, quiet life.

We have strong desires to have a family, live with another person, or join a community and yet after this has been satisfied, we are still drawn in exactly the opposite direction – our intimacy and our solitude. We must learn to honor both togetherness and individuality at the same time, even though we may sometimes feel a tug to one side only.

There are really two goals: one, to come to know yourself and two, to get to know the deep and subtle richness of the soul of the other. The final objective is to be both intimately connected with one another and at the same time, preserve one’s integrity and individuality.

This can be accomplished by giving the other sufficient emotional space in which to live and express one; then to risk revealing your own soul, complete with all its own absurdities. There are deep roots that may never have been revealed because of a lack o communication. The solution is not knowledge but love and a feeling that “you are accepted” by the other

We look at ourselves and we don’t like what we see. We try to change but the old imperfections remain steadfast. The basis of all relationships starts with the recognition that you have to be a friend to yourself – intimacy with oneself. The answer has everything to do with developing a good, intimate relationship to our own soul and the soul of others.



People living in the modern life often complain about a loss of traditional values and about feeling aimless, rootless and adrift. The culture of the family is a resource into which a person may dip throughout one’s life for direction, meaning and style.

One task is to forgive our parents for being imperfect. Life is much richer if we could let go of the excuse of parental failure and to establish a satisfying relationship with them. We benefit from the richness of a family and in particular of family stories, which identify who we are. The family may be one of the most powerful creative forces in our lives.



There is intermingling of souls that culminate in marriage – a demanding form of relationship. Marriage is a mystery, a sacrament and a sacred symbolic act. The interior of marriage is magical: it is fulfilling union that supplies a profound need for meaning, fulfillment and relatedness: a good home, fine children, happy days. Continue reading SOUL MATES

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Man and women were not created as solitary beings but as the ones who would recognize each other as flesh of their flesh and bones of their bones, as the ones who are capable of friendship and total surrender to each other, as the ones who are capable of life-giving acts in its many forms. God intended complementary and interdependent relatedness of men and women. God ordered the right proportion so that not one of them would infringe improperly on another. Women are the other side of man, as complementary, rather than inferior.

Of course, man and woman in their sexual union and begetting of children can become co-creators with God. Their love and action can mirror the Love of God. They are to be partners like body and soul which God joined together as one. Yet, sexuality is often encountered as lust or abusive and not life-giving.

God also intended this union to strive to build a spiritual marriage. Couples with a strong shared faith do have an advantage over those who don’t. Husbands and wives who have put their faith and trust in Jesus Christ are in touch with the Life that pulses at the center of the universe in a way that others can never be.

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Love is the only escape from loneliness. The one thing that changes the world from a lonely place to a beautiful place is love. Love gives us hope.

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Where’s God in My Loneliness?

Jesus-the only one who knows everything about you yet loves you perfectly-is the answer to your deepest need and the cure to your loneliness. “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”                                                                                               Psalm 23:4

So if your life is empty, fill it with Christ. You are never left alone when you are alone with God. “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4. Put the Kingdom of God first and all else will come. Cling to your life and you will lose it. Let the Spirit teach you to be satisfied with the fact that you have eternal life and will be with Jesus forever. The more you delight in God, the greater joy and satisfaction there is!

 Please Jesus, fill this loneliness with Your love.

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“Surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”                                                                                                                                             Matthew 28:20 Continue reading LONELINESS AND LOVE

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 Ministry is acting in the Name of Jesus. When all our actions are in the Name, they will bear fruit for eternal life.

To act in the Name of Jesus, however, doesn’t mean to act as a representative of Jesus or his spokesperson. It means to act in an intimate communion with him.

The Name is like a house, a tent, a dwelling. To act in the Name of Jesus, therefore, means to act from the place where we are united with Jesus in love.

To the question “Where are you?” we should be able to answer, “I am in the Name.” Then, whatever we do cannot be other than ministry because it will always be Jesus himself who acts in and through us.

The final question for all who minister is “Are you acting in the Name of Jesus?”” When we can say yes to that, our lives will become ministry.


Ministry is acting in the Name of Jesus. When all our actions are in the Name, they will bear fruit for eternal life. To act in the Name of Jesus, however, doesn’t mean to act as a representative of Jesus or his spokesperson. It means to act in an intimate communion with him. The Name is like a house, a tent, a dwelling. To act in the Name of Jesus, therefore, means to act from the place where we are united with Jesus in love. To the question “Where are you?” we should be able to answer, “I am in the Name.” Then, whatever we do cannot be other than ministry because it will always be Jesus himself who acts in and through us. The final question for all who minister is “Are you in the Name of Jesus?”” When we can say yes to that, all of our lives will be ministry. 

Henri Nouwen


It was only when Israel refused to believe in Christ that the early community began the process of defining its identity as the new Israel, separate from the old.

 “You are Peter and on this rock I will build my ChurchMatthew 16: 18 is used to indicate that Jesus established the Church at a definite point in time. But note that Jesus says, “I will build” — in other words, the Church will be firmly founded on Peter. Jesus had an idea of the founding of the Church as a process.

The Church is also a creation of the Spirit, who lives in the Church and guides it to the fullness of truth and unites its members in a unity of fellowship and service, bestowing on it various gifts that enable it to carry out its mission.

The Risen Christ inaugurated the Church by pouring out on his disciples the Spirit promised by the Father and endowing the Church with the same mission he had: to proclaim and establish the Kingdom of God.

Dynamic Catholicism: A Historical Catechism Bokenkotter, Thomas.


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Evil spiritual forces are at the root of many of the temptations, failures, and difficulties we encounter in our lives. Yet God has equipped us with weapons to overcome the work of evil spirits. This involves casting out evil spirits influencing or dwelling in people in the Name of Jesus Christ. God has equipped us with weapons : the most potent of these weapons: the NAME OF JESUS CHRIST.

The authoritative Christian teaching about spiritual warfare is outlined in the following website:

All deliverance is done in the Name of Jesus Christ: “at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth”                                                                                                       Philippians 2:10 Continue reading IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST

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 “In heaven the elders and angels offer up the prayers of the saints [on earth] as incense before the throne of God”                                                                                                                                                      Revelation 5:8; 8:3-4

 This implies that the angels and elders (holy Christians now in heaven) hear the prayers of every Christian on earth, and join their prayer now with ours: they can hear our prayers.

We can indeed ask the angels and saints for their prayers. They can hear us and respond to us by praying for us. This is not idolatry. Idolatry would only occur if one believed that a saint or angel would give you something that our Lord would not.      

God provides everything we need for us to be transformed into the image of Christ in this life.

If we die in the state of grace but before we have been fully conformed to the image of Christ, purgatory will complete that process for us.  The process of purgatory has been compared to the refiners touch. The souls of our loved ones must be saved by prayer from torments .


LOST IN PURGATORY: the Immortal Soul

“Then in anger his master handed him over to the torturers until he should pay back the whole debt. So will my heavenly Father do to you, unless each of you forgives his brother from his heart.”                                                                                                              Matthew 18: 34,35

Doesn’t that sound like a form of purgatory to you: until he should pay back the whole debt.”?

Message from a soul in Purgatory to a mystic:                                                         “I know when you pray for me, and it is the same with all of the other souls here in Purgatory. Very few of us here get any prayers; the majority of us are totally abandoned, with no thought or prayers offered for us from those on earth Continue to pray; I will repay you later on. When I am released you will see that I will do far more for you than you have ever done for me.”


As we get older, the majority of those we love best are dead. What sort of intercourse with God could we have, if what we love best were not important to Him?                                                            C.S. Lewis

So where does that leave your loved one? You probably never even considered the possibility of purgatory: no thought, no prayers, no hope. You may even have been taught that there is no purgatory, because it has not been mentioned specifically by name in the Bible.




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There are three languages that God has written on every heart: truth, goodness and beauty. Some people are more captivated on what is the truth and need more proof or reasons. Others are scandalized by the lack of goodness in the Church. Others still spend much time and effort seeking beautiful things in life, like artwork, music or travel. An evangelist must use the right language to connect to people.

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If your friend knows that you love him or her, then you have a pretty good chance of being heard. You can challenge him or her to grow and seek what is best.

Divine Appointment

The Holy Spirit provides the initiative for the conversation. This happens when you are praying for such conversations to happen. Pray that you will be sensitized to any divine appointment that God has aligned for you today.

Spiritual Conversation Starter Questions

  1. If you died today, do you know for sure you’d go to heaven? 
  2. If you died and stood before God and He asked you ‘Why should I let you into Heaven?’  What would you say?”


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Much of “Amoris Laetitia” consists of reflections on the Gospels and church teaching on love, the family and children. This document  offers the vision of a pastoral and merciful church that encourages people to experience the “joy of love.”

Amoris Laetitia

  1. The church needs to understand families and individuals in all their complexity Pastors are to “avoid judgments which do not take into account the complexity of various situations” (296). People should not be “pigeonholed or fit into overly rigid classifications leaving no room for personal and pastoral discernment” (298). In other words, one size does not fit all. People are encouraged to live by the Gospel, but should also be welcomed into a church that appreciates their particular struggles and treats them with mercy. “Thinking that everything is black and white” is to be avoided (305). And the church cannot apply moral laws as if they were “stones to throw at people’s lives” (305). Overall, he calls for an approach of understanding, compassion and accompaniment.

Continue reading AMORIS LAETITIA

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Divorced Protestant Marrying a Catholic?


Will the Catholic Church overlook my previous marriage since it wasn’t in the RC Church? Would I need an annulment? Would I need to convert or do I simply make the “child upbringing pledge?”      What about divorced Protestants who wish to marry a Catholic?

 Perhaps no issue arouses more antagonism or controversy than divorce.

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You really cannot paint all Protestant churches with the same brush when it comes to marriage except that their marriages are considered valid until proven otherwise.

What about divorce? Jesus’ stark warning is that divorce is not valid in God’s sight, and that remarriage is therefore adultery. Mark 10:11-12 So I say to you that anyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”                                                                                                                                                   Matthew 5:32

So our Lord recognizes that the sin of fornication, committed by either the husband or the wife, can so mutilate the marriage bond that the two must live separately.

Marriage is intended by God to be a “perfect union of persons and full sharing of life”. And so a perfect union is of its nature indissoluble.

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 God can begin again the work of creating that miracle of oneness which he intends for us. This is what marriage is all about. It is God’s way of putting two lives together to produce a oneness that will be a testimony to the whole world of the grace and the power of God to change human lives. He can soften hearts, and remove hardness, and change people into what they ought to be. This is what marriages are for.

The two can undo their own work; but they cannot undo the work of God. God has joined together. And together they remain, until God Himself comes to put them asunder in death.

The Church always presumes that marriages are valid until proven invalid — Protestant marriages included. 

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Some people enter into marriage without understanding the essentials of the commitment they are making. Without knowing what they are consenting to, a man and a woman cannot actually give full consent to a marriage union. Without this consent, a marriage does not really take place, even if the ceremony is performed and the marriage certificate is signed. This is what is known as an “invalid” marriage. Continue reading Divorced Protestant Marrying a Catholic?

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Bucket List God  Making a BUCKET LIST is Easy. 

You might already love writing lists even about God. You simply start writing down the things that you’ve always wanted to do but that you never got around to doing like bungee jumping, skydiving, traveling to Italy or learning French; something that you have always wanted to do. Sound simple?   Let’s talk about Bucket List of God.

Your initial list doesn’t have to be a “Pie in the Sky” list. The key of course is to simply start writing the first things that come into your head. By this way, you are being true to your innermost core, and being honest with yourself is the most important thing of all. Like many people, your career is probably at the top of your bucket list.  Yet, don’t be surprised — someday — when you look back on your life and say, “Is that all there is?” Maybe you should find some balance in your life.

God's Bucket List

Our Creator is in the business of creating order out of chaos. God uses lists to help us order our lives and learn more about him. He used a seven-day plan to create the universe. He gave Moses a list on Mount Sinai—the Ten Commandments. Jesus provided a wonderfully useful list of eternal values, the Beatitudes, as a code of ethics for those who would follow him. The nine fruit of the Spirit are listed in Galatians as virtues God develops in every believer. God doesn’t want us to obsess about making lists or panic about checking off dozens of specific tasks before we die, but lists can be very handy.

Maybe you forgot the spiritual things in life? Where is God in all this?” It’s time to stop thinking about what you want and instead consider and discern what God wants. God’s bucket list for your life might include things that have a bit more eternal value. Things that help you leave a worthy legacy or break through the roadblocks in your life. There we will find abundance beyond measure.

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“The key to this grand way of living life is submitting to God’s version of fulfillment and abundance instead of insisting He bless, approve and put the final stamp on our own version of things.” We are talking about real joy that is bigger and better than anything we have imagined. Continue reading YOUR BUCKET LIST WITH GOD

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Was Jesus a Revolutionary?

Was Jesus, then, a revolutionary? Not in any sense that Lenin or Trotsky would have recognized. When people hear the words radical and revolutionary they instantly think of some aggressive, gun toting, anarchist that has motives to overthrow an earthly government, but that was not the intentions of Jesus. The word “radical” comes from a Latin word “radix” which simply means “to cut to the root” as in “radical surgery” to remove a cancerous growth. In this sense, Jesus was a radical with a radical message that was indeed meant to cut to the root of wrong and remove it from our lives.


 The Mediterranean Sea was still a geographer’s main point of reference, if not the center of the world. In 2 A.D., a census of the Han dynasty showed that its people numbered around 57.5 million. The Roman Empire, which had around 45 million people in it at the time, did not know about any Chinese civilization.

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If you want to know what it was like before Jesus Christ walked the Earth, all you have to do is read a few history books written before 0 AD. There was discrimination in Ancient Greece: Plato wrote in The Republic that it would be an ideal state that “every member of the community must be assigned to the class for which he finds himself best fitted.  Aristotle philosophized that people should be given goods and assets according to their merit.

Before Christ, except among the Jewish People, religion was a “blind search for God.” Life before Christ was filled with superstition, fear of the unknown and an attempt to make sense of a world and universe they could not possibly understand. Man made gods in his own image, usually celebrations of his vices or his needs.  Most of the stuff associated with the cave paintings is presumed to be associated with some form of shamanic practices, or more accurately nature worship or animism. 

Pre-Christian faiths were not uniform; their gods had no consistent meaning to all adherents, they had no central dogmas or tenets. The most famous god in Ancient Greek was Zeus.

Let us reflect at these times when slavery and subjugation of women was typical. From the dawn of human society every woman was in a state of bondage to some man, because she was of value to him and she had less muscular strength than he did.

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No woman in Athens could own anything more than her own clothing, jewelry and personal slave. When she was ready to marry, her father or other guardian would choose a potential husband.  In the early days of the Roman Republic women were not even allowed to make suggestions, at least in public.



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