CHEAP SEX and MARRIAGE

‘CHEAP SEX’ IS DESTROYING MARRIAGE

A NEW MORALITY OF SEX?

The words of the pope and the Vatican commissions fall for the most part on deaf ears, as is obvious from polls and other indications that even faithful Catholics no longer conform to Church teachings on sex. Vatican efforts against “artificial” methods of birth control have been in vain, and the Church has suffered such a general loss of credibility that its preachments on sex are ignored if not scorned by the overwhelming majority of Catholics.

Christian fundamentalists see it, of course, as a clear indication of the devil’s power over fallen humanity. But their hellfire-and-brimstone warnings reach only a tiny portion.

The enormous increase in the material standard of living, allows people more freedom to experiment.

There is an increasing corruption of morals and unbridled exaltation of sex. In addition, Christians are confused because of the diversity of opinions contrary to the teaching of the Church.

The Church’s position is enunciated in the basic principle, drawn from natural law, that the sexual function has its true meaning and moral goodness only in marriage, so the document of the Church goes on to rule out premarital sex, homosexual acts and masturbation .

Premarital sex is ruled out by the Church even when the partners are deeply committed to each other and are impeded from marrying only by adverse circumstances.

On the other hand, sex has the potential to bring people to the deepest level of intimacy.

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In his recently released book “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage and Monogamy,” Regnerus examines the dramatic changes in American sexual beliefs that have led to an inability among increasing numbers of young men and women to marry, have children and be faithful to one another.

Three technological developments — highly effective contraceptives, high-quality Internet pornography and on-line dating/meeting services — have made sex (or sexual release) as easy to get in the U.S. as  water from a tap. Together, they drive down the cost of real sex, and in turn slow the development of love, make fidelity more challenging and have even taken a toll on men’s marriage ability. No longer playing a supporting role in relationships, sex has emerged as a central priority in relationships.

Everything in this new world is instantaneous……..everything is available and at their finger tips! Cheap sex has become like eating fast food. it is a NOW generation. They younger generation has a hard time looking down the road –planning for the future.

There is an emergence of something called Confluent Love”, which is “not forever” love, but love that asks whether this relationship is satisfying for both parties. When one party answers “no,” the relationship does not continue. Confluent love is the new norm that is shaping our dating and marriage relationships. For good or ill, neither partner will be happy with the final result.

In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex. To get a wife (and, therefore, sex), men had to be clean and presentable and have a good job. This, Regnerus reasons, gave men all the motivation they needed to become respectable members of society. Nowadays young men can skip the detour of getting education and career prospects to qualify for sex. Now with porn on demand and greater reproductive freedom, sex is a commodity available at any time.

MEN AND WOMEN DIFFERENCES

Men and women are not the same with regard to sex. In general, men have more desire for sex than women. Women desire sex too, but they also want it with love, attention, care and, if they are smart, permanence. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and even if they don’t want to give it away cheaply, men now expect it and can go elsewhere if a woman does not put out. In other words, if women want male attention, they have to give sex away cheaply because other women do and men won’t hang around if they don’t. It’s a vicious circle which leads to untold numbers of young people who have failed relationship after failed relationship.

WOMEN DIFFICULTIES

Many women tend to be so hungry for love and touch that a little sex may give it to them, and so they may keep men on a chain. As compared to the past, many women today expect little in return for sex, in terms of time, attention, commitment or fidelity. Men, in turn, do not feel compelled to supply these goods as they once did.

Heterosexual women will have increasing difficulties finding a partner worth committing to. This leads women to settle, entering into doomed or otherwise unsatisfying marriages.

Women are getting married less because they are getting higher paying and higher educational jobs. But because women want to marry up, they only want to date the top 20% of men this presents a unique problem when all of the female population wants the same top 20% of men 

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There are those who still believe in the sanctity of marriage or a solid committed relationship with one partner. They believe in romantic LOVE that is for the long haul. They are usually loyal to whoever they fall in LOVE with. They believe in the old school ways of thinking where people stayed in marriages for better or worst. Whoever they fall in LOVE with will always come home to them.

There are many people who are very much in LOVE and who prefer to be together without the signed contract of marriage. Others prefer the one on one kind of committed LOVE celebrated at the altar with God as the third important Partner. These are healthy relationships, where both people should have their own personal space to shine in their own beautiful light. It’s that kind of LOVE that you can see yourself having a life with, creating a family, growing old with and seeing your children become adults and being grandparents together. This is the kind of love that men are losing by not marrying. Whoever you fall in LOVE with will always come home to you.

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Marriage has become less of a priority for both genders simply because it is no longer made out to be the sole purpose of growing up in life… Education, travel, independence have all become valid and attainable choices for many. Both men and women no longer feel pressured to marry young.

These developments steer people away from thinking of sex as having anything to do with love, monogamy, or child-bearing — all traits that most Americans have long equated with marriage. Because sex is so readily available, people have lost the script that led them to marriage, family and permanence.

As women start to become more demanding of men, men turn away from women in pursuit of pleasure that costs little to nothing. We have failing rates of marriage and even greater rates of divorce.

As a consequence, men lose 50% of their property (real estate, cash, investments, etc) after divorce, plus add to this amount up to 18 years child support, including spousal support. So the costs can be staggering.

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This never leads to the kind of permanence that both men and women want, The age at marriage rises higher and higher, the number of people who will marry in their lifetime (though most want to marry) shrinks lower and lower, and people don’t understand what is wrong, It’s a horrible situation for women and children especially, but for men too because they too are happier when they are married and faithful.

Let us talk about those who become unhappy with their own sexual situation.The quick fix of cheap sex is partly why there’s so much depression. The lack of intimacy, connection, deep knowing of one another, being together in, living a life in sacred union is lost in the fold of a cluttered, consumerist, shallow, and living for the moment. This can lead to situations where parents who are wondering why their son or daughter has been unable to find a marriage partner. They may also be considered misfits and even threatened with social isolation and shame.

The scary part is in a disregard of women: the sacredness of women and family. The ultimate disrespect is seen in some Southeast Asian countries, where men are in the driver’s seat in the marriage. Women are considered to be old at the age of 40 and they actually accept their lot, because they know that their man will often starts to seek younger women in their twenties.

In the past it was commonplace for Americans to absent themselves from church in early adulthood, they usually returned upon marriage and parenthood. That has changed: today these developments have deadened religious impulse and led to a cessation in church attendance completely.

BIRTH CONTROL

Many scholars are generally agreed that the rate of population growth must be curbed if we are to ward off mass starvation and economic and social chaos in large portions of the world.

The Church supports the rhythm method makes use of the female menstrual cycle, which leaves a woman fertile for only about six days in each twenty-eight-day period.

One big development accelerated a crisis over this issue within the Church: Progestin compound (the pill) became available.

Paul VI issued his encyclical Humanae Vitae, which ruled out any use of artificial contraceptives as intrinsically wrong.

More remarkable yet , a number of the Catholic hierarchies around the world, including those of Canada, the Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Scandinavia and Belgium went on record as accepting the papal teaching but stressing the right of the individual to follow his or her conscience.

As time passed, it became clear that very few Catholics adhered to the teaching of the encyclical. A survey in the United States showed that nearly 77 percent of Catholic wives were practicing birth control in 1975,

Another study, of ten thousand Catholics in sixty American parishes made between 1978 and 1982, showed that only 15 percent thought artificial birth control wrong.

Dynamic Catholicism: A Historical Catechism Bokenkotter, Thomas

JESUS WISHES TO SPEAK TO YOU.

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Let Me be a Living Presence in your Married Life.

“I love you.

I take you to the town of Cana in Galilee. It is not far from Nazareth. It was there that I performed My first miracle by changing water into wine at the request of My dear mother.

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I blessed this couple that was getting married that day. I bless every couple who pledges their love to each other for life in a wedding ceremony according to the norms of the Church.

They are to love and cherish each other for life in sickness and in health and in good times as well as in bad times. These solemn vows are made to the Father and Me for I unite them as husband and wife. May all couples be faithful to these vows for life.

They will be unable to keep these vows if I am not a part of their marriage for the evil one will attempt to break this sacred bond.

The mentality of the world is secular and society plays God. They think they can decide everything even what goes directly against the commandments of God. 

There are all these horrible movies which no Christian should watch, especially those that promote sexual pleasure, that promote abortion, that teach that homosexuality is good, that living with a partner without marriage is okay, that adultery is not evil and that the main reason for life is to make as much money as possible. So many of these things make a person self-centered and completely opposed to what I taught. 

Dear Christian couples, let Me be a living presence in your married life. Ask for My blessing and My grace every day. Pray daily and go to Church often and I will protect you. You need to have a close relationship with Me. I bless you.”

The above messages came to Father Melvin Doucette:

Fr. Melvin Doucette was ordained to the priesthood on and joined the Missionaries of Africa for 29 years in Africa. In contemplative prayer every morning, Fr. Doucette receives by interior locution “messages from heaven” to share with the public.

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  • Christians don’t shout, “I am clean living!” They whisper “I was lost, but now I’m found and forgiven.” 
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  • Christians don’t brag of success, but they admit that they are failing and they need God to clean up the mess.
  • Christians don’t claim to be perfect. Their flaws are far too visible but God believes they are worth it.
  • Christians still feel the sting of pain and they have their share of headaches but they call upon His Name.
  • Christians are not holier than thou. They are also simple sinners who receive God’s unbelievable grace.

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If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.                                                                                                                                           Romans 10:9

The real Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the Living God. He was send by God to come to the earth in the body of a human being. That was so that He could suffer in the flesh, take all our sins upon Himself and die in our place. He rose from the dead and lives to pray for us daily.
He is the Saviour – The angel announced to Mary; …and you shall call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins. Matthew 1:21    It means He has the power to free us, save us and deliver us from sin. He is merciful and has the power to forgive. He brings good news to the poor, heals the heartbroken, announce freedom to all captives, pardons all prisoners. He comforts mourners. He has healing in His wings.
If you are not yet received Jesus as your Saviour… SAY: Lord Jesus, You are the Christ, the Son of the Living God. Please hear me today and help me! I want to receive you as my Lord and Saviour. Be Lord of my life!  Lord Jesus, I believe that You died for me and that God raised You from the dead. Forgive me all my sins and take all my sins away. Come into my heart and be my Saviour and Lord, and fill me with Your Holy Spirit. Amen

God the Father will wipe every tear from our eyes, and there shall be no more death or mourning, crying out or pain. We will be like Him, for we will see Him as He is The Holy Spirit will have made all things new. Eternal joy will have begun.  “For the Mighty One has done great things for me— holy is His name.”                                       Luke 1: 49

Are we not like Barabbas justly condemned for murder, but saved by the innocent Jesus on the cross? Are we not like the adulterous woman, deserving of death by stoning, to whom Jesus says, “I do not condemn you”?  And Jesus saved them both. In fact, Jesus came to earth specifically to look for and save those who were lost.

“Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the LORD.

“Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow;

though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.    Isaiah 1:18

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